Oral Sex Technique – What is a Safe Technique For Shy Men

Oral sex technique is something many men do not give a second thought to. It comes naturally and most men instinctively know what to do. Well, at least many men do. Some do it better than others but to most, it is instinctive. But what if you are a shy guy? What if you really do not know what to do? What would be a safe technique for you to use in order not to risk ruining your lovemaking session with your woman? This article recommends a safe oral sex technique that you can use when you are out of ideas on what to do next.

1. Understand that any effective oral sex technique must start by first arousing your lover’s mind. Generally, pretty much any part of your lover’s skin can give her pleasure once you have got her mind sufficiently aroused. This is where foreplay comes in. Foreplay can sometimes take the form of very sexual verbal teasing and flirting. This can sometimes turn the mind on and when this happens, the body follows suit. You can turn your lover on this way. Other forms of foreplay also will help you e.g. kissing, snuggling, caressing her skin, running your fingers through her hair, hugging her tight as well as more aggressive forms such as role play, bondage, spanking and others. Each woman likes her foreplay different so find out from her what she likes.

2. Once sexually aroused, you need to start slow. Do not go straight to her clitoris or other sexual areas. Start with less sexual areas like the insides of her thighs and the area between her belly button and her vagina. Take your time and just caress or kiss these areas. Start slow and pay attention to her reaction. If she likes what you are doing, do more of it. Pretty soon she will start giving you very clear signs what she wants you to do next. Some women are ticklish in these areas, which is why it is important that you first get your lover aroused. In some cases, you just have to avoid the areas your sex partner finds ticklish and target alternatives.

3. When you do get to the stage where you directly stimulate her sexual organs, start slow. An oral sex technique that starts gradually is more likely to succeed. Make sure your lips and tongue are wet or that her genitals are sufficiently lubricated. The clitoris is very sensitive, with more nerve endings and receptors than the whole of a man’s penis. If your contact is dry, the friction will probably give her pain instead of pleasure. Feel free to use your saliva in any oral sex technique you use as it is a natural lubricant. And to avoid drying up any lubrication that may be on the clitoris, avoid blowing on it. Always start with slow and soft pressure and increase these as she responds favorably. Again, pay close attention to her responses and you will quickly have a good idea what she wants you to do next.

4. When using your tongue, maintain a consistent pattern for a period of time. Do not haphazardly keep changing the way you stimulate her as you need to work out a rhythm that she will respond to. If you use the figure eight (for example), keep at it for a while, and see how she responds. If it doesn’t turn her on more, use a different tongue movement pattern. Remember, if you keep a consistent oral motion and rhythm, even if you do it slow, your oral sex technique will bring your lover closer to orgasm. If you find that your lover likes it fast, maintain that fast speed until she orgasms. In order to do this, it helps if you take a comfortable position that allows you to continue the oral stimulation for as long as necessary.

5. If it is your first few times doing this with your lover, keep reassuring her as you start about how you love to taste her and how good she tastes and how beautiful she is. Shower her with compliments and reassurances like that. Make her feel you enjoy administering your oral sex technique. Some women worry that their men will be repulsed by their odor or taste or even looks. So always assure her that you love having oral sex with her and she will enjoy your oral sex technique the more for it.